Attachment Theory
Why do you feel you are one style or multiple attachment styles? Has your attachment style changes over time?
In my courses, I have learned quite a bit about our attachment styles. For one thing, the quality of our attachment and emotional regulation are often linked closely. Attachment theory often describes our behavior and bond over a long period. One, an important theme is that attachment theory behavior is big influences by our responses to our caregivers, which is impacted by our Biology as discussed by professor Mate Gabor in the video in today’s lecture. He say’s” children need the attachment to survive, as we depend on our parent to survive.
Also, people have the flexibility to integrate both negative and positive emotions, which are securely attached. On the other hand, some people are often characterised by heightened or limited emotion are insecurely attached. The same can be said with the attachment bond with children where they become secure and reliant through nonverbal means of communication. During this stage, children tend to understand and attach themselves to the caregiver or adult.
We also know that the children’s experience of avoidance fulfillment and anxiety is derived from attachment behaviors depending on the caregivers’ actions. They may feel threatened, attended to, care for by the adult. Therefore, children that receive love and support from their parents feel secure but can feel extremely anxious around other caregivers. On the other hand, children without love and support may avoid the care given because they fear they may be mistreated
So, in terms of my unattachment style, I believe that I am a combination of these styles, sometimes I feel I tend fearful avoidance. Other times I may be anxious preoccupied. While at times, I may even be dismissive avoidance. And even secure most of the time. However, I think my main attachment style is secure.
In conclusion, I would say this is a result of variable factors such as environment, family, friends. Other factors such as Biology and my Genes, my life experiences, may guide my decision and choices that I have made in my life. So, it is all very variables that makeup part of my attachment style.