Conflict resolution in a family relationship
Family relationships are very complex and require much patience for them to stand. A family that does not have conflicts is one that lives in pretense and sweeps every conflict under the carpet. Conflicts are inevitable in any family relationship as a family brings different people from different orientations of life together. For a family to develop fully and sincerely, conflicts must arise in a family (Bonache, Ramírez-Santana, & Gonzalez-Mendez, 2016). The conflicts, however, can break or make the family depend on how they are handled in this piece of work. I am going to look at how sexual dysfunction and parenting result in family conflicts.
Sexual dysfunctions are when there is a problem in an individual the makes the couple not to enjoy their sexual activities fully.
It is the recurrent, persistent difficulty in desire, orgasm, and pain during sexual activity (Qureshi, & Shahjehan, 2019). Sexual dysfunction problems can be a result of alcohol; consumption, stress, tobacco use, drug use, cycling, or relationship matters. The dysfunction problem makes the process of having sex difficult. Sex is an integral part of a relationship, and without it, most relationships fail. This problem is often painful, and most couples would not talk about it in the open. This problem causes many destructive conflicts as it is always accompanied by violence and physical aggression, threats and shouts, criticism and contempt, withdrawals, and silence. When this issue is not resolved, the marriage may fail, or the couples may start having extramarital affairs (Lee, Pace, Lee, & Altschul, 2019). Constructively medical solutions can be taken to resolve the problems once the partners have identified that the problem is due to drug abuse or other factors that are medically related. The partners can also learn to talk about this problem calmly with a counselor to see if the problem can be remedied.
Sexual dysfunction can be used to solve other related questions and problems that might have resulted in the challenge. Looking for a long-lasting solution might go a long way in resolving the relationship conflict in the family (Bonache, Ramírez-Santana, & Gonzalez-Mendez, 2016). The other issue that has occasionally caused friction in the family is parenting. Parenting can be looked t in two ways: low-income family upbringing that results in frustrations in marriage or neglect of the parental duties, leading to separation in a marriage relationship (Lee, Pace, Lee, & Altschul, 2019). A boy who grew up in a family where his father used to beat up the mother will believe that beating up the wife is the way to go. This kind of upbringing makes the relationship between a man and a woman to be full of violence.
On the other hand, a girl who grew up seeing the mother beating up the husband will also be so violent in the marriage. The other aspect of violence regarding parenting is when a father or a mother neglects the children and leaves all the parenting chores to the other. The desire to allow all the parents to participate in the children’s parenting process may push the one burdened into violence with the one who has neglected the responsibility. The other aspect of parenting is when one parent is overprotective of the children. Any punishment given to the children is deemed as wrong. The punishment might also result in violence as there is a right to punish a child, but also the punishment should not be extreme to cause injuries (Lee, Pace, Lee, & Altschul, 2019). The punishment meted on the children can also bring violence in a relationship more so when it is extreme. The constructive way to deal with this is dialogue. Spouses need to sit together and talk about their issues. If they cannot do it themselves, then a counselor can be involved. Issues to do with an irresponsible parent can be worked out without necessarily quarreling in front of the children. Anytime the quarrel spills over to the children’s glare, then the violence becomes a destructive one. Court cases and open insults in public and private areas, engaging family members in your issues, all lead to destructiveness and separation (Qureshi, & Shahjehan, 2019). Couples should always consider the feelings of the other before starting the violence. Calming down when faced with a quarrel helps a lot. You can take your time to calm down before getting into a destructive argument.
In summary, when faced with any argument, considers the feelings of the other person. Do not generalize issues. Deal with one thing at a time. Give time for the other to speak. Please do not make it a one-person show. Avoid using words that will bring more violence, calm yourself down, always look for a win-win scenario, be a flexible person in the conversation, and always seek to resolve the issue as fast as possible.
References
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Lee, J. Y., Pace, G. T., Lee, S. J., & Altschul, I. (2019). The associations of constructive and destructive interparental conflict to child well-being among low-income families. Journal of interpersonal violence, 0886260519835872.
Qureshi, J. A., & Shahjehan, A. (2019). A Systematic Review and Meta-analysis of Relationships Between Religiosity and Employees Constructive and Destructive Behaviors. Journal of religion and health, 1-16.
Smith‐Darden, J. P., Kernsmith, P. D., Reidy, D. E., & Cortina, K. S. (2017). In search of modifiable risk and protective factors for teen dating violence. Journal of research on adolescence, 27(2), 423-435.