Divorce
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Dewi, E. M. P. (2017). The Meaning Of Divorce For Wives (The Marriage Age 20 Years And Above). Jurnal Psikologi Pendidikan dan Konseling: Jurnal Kajian Psikologi Pendidikan dan Bimbingan Konseling, 23-29.
Marriage is vital in the life of all human beings from their early time to the present. The wife and husband in any marriage can sire off-springs of their choice. The lawful marriage must involve happiness both externally and internally. When a marriage takes place, most people have a higher expectation of a happy life. Some adjustments follow after people get married due to the new responsibilities to both husband and wife. The dreams anticipated at the beginning of marriage mostly do not realize the final stage because things get more challenging than expected. Self-adjustment is not a simple task for each member of the marriage agreement. Mostly, the young couple is not mature enough to take their responsibilities, ending up in divorce. The first five years of marriage calls for adjusting each family member’s behaviors and duties: the husband and the wife. The struggle from each couple is high because they try to adjust their personalities.
The first five years’ phase of marriage gives a hint of how future marriage will be. After the couple can go through the first phase successfully, chances of divorce are reduced, and the couple is ready to face stronger waves. The partners need cohesiveness, as their traits, to solve household problems. When the couples realize principles that have no unity in their relationship, divorce dominates. Before and after divorce, each partner remains firm and focused without solving the problems and unity. The differences increase because the couples are not willing to curb the shortcomings, precisely. Various elements cause divorce, including economic issues, verbal problems, bluffing acts, liquor, and adultery. This discussion will focus on understanding the divorce rate in the United States, the five stages associated with pain during divorce, and practical application during a divorce.
Allred, C. (2019). Age variation in the divorce rate, 1990 & 2017. Family Profiles, 13.
The rate of divorce in the United States has reduced over the past three decades. For example, in 1990, for every one thousand people, nineteen people divorced. Later in 2017, the rate of divorced people reduced to fifteen for every one thousand married couples. The years between 1990 and 2017 gives a fair reflection of the divorce rate in the United States. Also, the divorce rate for aged fifty years and above has doubled over the past three decades. Thus, younger adults have improved from divorcing. The rate of divorce declined between 1990 and 2017 according to age. The divorce rates in 1990 were lower than those in 2017. The young age group has recorded a decreased divorce rate. For example, people between the age of fifteen and twenty-four had their divorce rate reduced by forty-three percent. Otherwise, their divorce rate increased by 2017 compared with 1990 rates for those aged forty-five and above. The ages mentioned make the average divorce age as thirty years.
The divorce rate can also be explained by gender. The trend of divorce is realized to be equal for all men and women across the United States. Men and women who are under the age of thirty-five realized a decline in their divorce rate. Also, people aged forty-five and above are identified to have their divorce rate increased by 2017—the divorce rate of people aged at least fifty-five years and above tripled—also, the divorce rate of women aged from sixty-five and above increased six-times, accordingly.
Hango, C. R. (2015). The Five Stages of Grief: A Composition for Brass Ensemble.
There are five stages of grief that are associated with divorce. These stages include denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. All these stages form a loop that supplements each other. During grief, denial, and isolation come first. Individuals feel separated from the rest and denied their rights to associate with one another. When people divorce, each member feels denied the right to marriage and feels isolated. The second stage after divorce is anger. Individuals get angered by the condition and the fact that they misused their time together. The third stage of grief-related to divorce is grief, which explains bargaining. In bargaining, each member would have accepted their condition and decided to reconcile if chances are given to them, accordingly. Thus during bargaining, the members are trying to check if they can reconcile. Later depression results if the rejection is offered for the second time. When divorced couples do not agree over settling once more, one of them all fall into depression. Depression comes because the individuals are not sure if they can restore all time and resources they used in their previous relationship. Finally, acceptance is the other stage. After rejection and depression, the divorced couples realize that they cannot waste more time thinking about their past and have to move on with life. Thus, divorced couples accept their condition and continue with another type of life. All these stages are common to divorced people who undergo grief, unless other specific traits will encounter various individuals in the same case, accordingly. All the grief steps are depressing, and individuals need love and compassion from their family members to stand firm.
Choo, Y. M. (2015). Two Essays on Divorce and One on Utilitarianism (Doctoral dissertation).
Utilitarianism helps in making bold decisions in all aspects of life, equivalent to when individuals get divorced. The utilitarian welfare function is useful when people divorce. Two assumptions are made when applying the utilitarian welfare function. The first method is when making judgments, each individual’s notion is not fully considered. Thus, interpersonal comparisons are made accordingly. The second approach involves individuals’ perception accordingly. The second approach mostly calls for a neutral person who is sound to give a final judgment on the condition, accordingly. The second approach, therefore, fully involves individuals’ preferences. The second approach about involving individuals’ interest reflect the society’s approach of life situation too. When indifferences are cut out, the weights are negative because achieving the final solution is precisely hard. Otherwise, the positive weights do not need to be equal for each individual. Thus, each character will receive a higher weight. Also, when an individual’s preference diverges from that of others, they receive a higher positive weight.
Relative utilitarianism is the best way of moving forward and solving welfare issues. Welfare has individuals with similar thoughts according to relative utilitarianism. Utilitarianism helps in getting the weight of individual perspectives in handling divorce. The five stages of anger-related to divorce should incorporate utilitarianism in solving the problem. Couples do not want to listen to one another after divorce and relate their issues to personal thoughts. Also, applying utilitarianism would be more challenging if a neutral third party is not involved. Other parties cannot make any changes once they have divorced. Marriage is a sensitive institution that individuals who have decided to engage should be keen in all their engagements.
Sharma, B. (2011). The mental and emotional impact of divorce on women. Journal of the Indian Academy of applied psychology, 37(1), 125-31.
Women are realized to encounter low self-esteem and undergo strain when divorced. Women of varied aged groups undergo various levels of strain due to divorce. Divorce is legal but leads to depression. Divorce also includes changing the lives of individuals through economic, pathological, and legal aspects. Divorce marks the end of the marriage relationship, leading to various individuals’ emotional set-back depending on their approach. Various mental issues related to divorce are depression, anger, anxiety, self-hate, and reduced self-esteem. Otherwise, men get broken too after divorce and go through the stages of grief, accordingly.
Third parties who come in and neutralize divorce activities ensure that they do their best to have the two parties back and fresh. Also, individuals have the power to overcome divorce and all the negative energy from divorce if they have the right mindset, are patient and understanding. Divorce is the result of little disagreements that cannot be solved over a few time. The individuals must mostly decide if they will forget what made them divorce and come back into their senses.
Divorce emanates from personal decisions, and life will move on accordingly. Marriage is an institution that individuals must respect. Before engaging in marriage, people must understand their ability to relate to one another and focus on understanding the differences found in them, accordingly. The five stages of grief can be avoided when one understands the other and avoid divorce. Divorce would be solved better by individuals rather than third parties. Spiritual engagement must be involved in marriages to last longer.