Eco map and Personal Life

Eco map and Personal Life

KEY

• Strong Relationships

• Weak Relationships

• stressful Relationships

My family is organized in a nuclear structure with both parents and two siblings. Although my parents share parental roles and power, my father holds the head authority. I noted the responsibility, smoke- free, and peace patterns existing in our family structure. While performing the household task with my parents, I noticed they always leave us to our duties no matter how adverse the outcomes are. My siblings and I only got punished for not doing the assigned chores but not doing tasks below my parent’s expectations. Meaning my parents were encouraging us to be responsible and teaching us how essential it is. I am making my observations from the extended family that is grandparents, uncles and aunties no one smoked cigarettes or even marijuana. Later, I learned my grandfather was strictly against any form of smoking, and he passed the habit to my father and relatives. Also, I observed how my parents encouraged peace over winning fights.  According to the Eco map we have a working but not strong relationship with the relatives. Meaning we are not exactly close to each relative, but still, my family maintains a peaceful relationship. Each time my parent gives pep talks to us (the children), it is always about how we should choose peace every time an argument arises. Unknowingly, I have so far upheld and supported the family patterns.

My family is conversation oriented, and values open conversations. As a family dedicated to maintaining peace in activities, my family members prefer having a straight forward conversation about everything. However, I have not been able to adopt family communication patterns. Mostly, I retreat from harsh conversations that are necessary to be conducted because I fear negative outcomes. My siblings and I have been taught three central values which are; always try to make a difference to the world through hard work, take responsibility for your personality, and still be honest. As indicated in my ecomap, my parents relate exceptionally well with their work environment. The dedication they direct towards work is because of their belief in participating in making a meaningful input and making a difference. Although taking up personality responsibility is a hard value to maintain, I agree, is a good value that everyone, not only my family, should keep. I support the family values my parents are trying to instill in us since the values encourage identity confidence and hard work.

My family members deal with stress differently. Success is primarily advocated in the family, and due to that reason, my brother and I have had a stressful time at school. Each time we do not achieve our potential success, we get anxious, and brother mostly has an emotional breakdown. My brother and I have probably interpreted my parent’s advocacy for great achievement as a need for perfection. The perception is stuck in our minds and failing in any field apart from school brings anxiety and discomfort.  My mother, on the other side, maintains mental and emotional stability even under enormous pressure and stress. My father finds distraction while under stress. He believes the best way to act during a depressing time is to reach out to people, undertake new tasks, and hobbies. My father’s stressful moments are noticeable but calm. Therefore, both my parents are capable of balancing their emotions and reframe depressing issues with calmness but us the children we have been able to.

From my ecomap information, I have learned the importance of assessing clients based on the different relations in their lives. The information I obtained from my personal life eco map taught me that having control over one sector of life does not guarantee total stability. It is possible to have a loving, supportive, and non-toxic family but still unhealthy stress response. I possess a weakness of being unable to deal with stressful moments. Failing of being incompetent in any tasks makes me nervous. Therefore, I can relate more appropriately to clients suffering from anxiety. I’m familiar with anxious behavior and symptoms and most importantly, aware of the minimal reactions that could help the situation. I stated honesty as a value my parents have tried to instil in the family, and as a value, I agree with as well. Thus, I understand the reality about honesty scenarios and I can quickly identify dishonest clients. Also, dealing with a client with stealing disorder will not be difficult for me. I understand honesty is a value that can be developed (Fritz-Mauer, 2019), and I’m aware of ways to encourage someone to only engage in legal and ethical behaviors. I’m aware of ideas that I can influence a client who stole something into reforming their actions and choosing a better way.

Reference

Fritz-Mauer, M. (2019). Honest Work, Unfair Pay: Wage Theft and Disputing Among Low-Wage Workers in the District of Columbia (Doctoral dissertation, UC Irvine).

Henderson, J. Q. (1981). A behavioral approach to stealing: A proposal for treatment based on ten cases. Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry, 12(3), 231-236.

Rempel, G. R., Neufeld, A., & Kushner, K. E. (2007).Interactive use of genograms and ecomaps in family caregiving research. Journal of Family Nursing,        13(4), 403-419.