Factors influencing relationships among youths in school
A lost mind is like an open market where any interested can venture and establish a structure. Young schooling individuals are a target by nature to either built or demolish their future. How to survive in an unpredictable environment requires well-laid strategies. Have you ever thought about how you can survive in a new environment? Would you establish yourself in a market full of evil competitors within the shortest time possible? Developing relationships with people in the new environment is a fundamental tool of survival. I cannot ignore the fact that relationships affect every aspect of life and an individual. In a lifetime, young people experience various issues of relationships (Green, 2014). Have you ever thought of how you interact with members of your family in our society? Can you evaluate whether your relationship with other people is perfect? A relationship is a behavior between two or more individuals who are connected in one way or another (Deci et al., 2014). Youths interact or combine in different ways. Some people say that relationships cannot be perfect, but it can always be made better among individuals. Some relationships are meant to be close and intimate, while others are meant for friendship. Both of them are affected by the mode of interaction that occurs among people. According to Kelly and colleagues, our relationship can occur between a parent and a child. It can also happen between a spouse and a spouse and friendship. In most cases, close associations are considered frequent and strong among individuals, and they have diverse interdependence focusing on lasting for long periods. In earlier research, interpersonal relationship initially begins between strangers who meet for the first time. The relationship starts with physical attraction among individuals, and its success will be determined by the mode of interaction which they will have (LeFebvre, Leah, 2018). A relationship is conceptualized typically as a behavior. Its ability to flourish is attributed to the attitude of the individuals towards each other. Unless individuals show interest in a relationship for the first time, it may shun off the other partner. Young people express feelings, behaviors, and cognition, either positive or negative. A positive expression builds a more substantial relationship among young people weather interacting at schools or home.
Self-reflectiveness can save a mind lost in the wilderness. Along the way to maturity, situations may not be a walk in the park. Only individuals with a specific key to life will survive. Some say that it’s only the strongest to survive, but I can also say that the knowledgeable will survive (Laabs, Bonnie, 2016). Interested partners build more reliable and genuine relationships between individuals. The effort an individual put in a relationship will determine whether the other intimate partners will be interested or not. In a typical school environment, youths are affected by relationships in various ways. Many youths in school have been involved in unhealthy relationships, which impacts their lives negatively (Tian, Lili, and Scott, 2014). Other young people have benefited from the relationships they involve while in a school environment. Some students build stronger relationships while others build interactions that destroys them academically.
In my past experiences, when I joined high school, my performance was affected by the relationships I built with other students and teachers. The ability to rely on a strong relationship in high school was influenced by how I was raised. I feel strongly agree that the society I was brought up in contributed to my ability to detect healthy relationships that will benefit and affect my academics. I think my parents equipped me with vital knowledge on how to interact with other people. I remember my dad counseling me on how to interact with people of the opposite gender. He used to advise me on setting lanes in relationship issues, especially when I am in school. Dad used to tell me that it’s not every relationship that will be of benefit to me while in school. In his advice, he used to use to ask me to evaluate critically the people I interact with. My mother once told me if in involving myself with individuals who smoke cigarettes, then I will end up a smoking cigarette. She used to warn me of unhealthy relationships. The ability to be influenced by the people you relate with reminds me of social exchange. The theory suggests that every person you are in a relationship will expect something from you, and that person will influence you with what he or she has. A friend will expect you to contribute something in his/her life. The theory of uncertainty and reduction, as suggested by Richard and Charles Berger, indicates that individuals who meet for the first time must depend on communication to evaluate each other (Redmond and Mark, 2015). As young people, I think we must conduct a thorough background of the relationships that we involve ourselves in a while in school. We should establish facts on whether we want an intimate relationship with a person or a friendship-oriented relationship.
A self-esteem is a vital tool that influences relationships among many youths in school. Self-esteem is a feeling that an individual feels about himself or herself (McKay, Matthew, and Patric, 2016). The feeling can be positive or negative depending, and it differs from one person to the other. Individuals with high self-esteem do not struggle to interact with others and form relationships. The intense feeling about one’s self gives the courage to approach others and interact with them. Young people with high self-esteem feel good about themselves, and they appreciate themselves in all aspects. Therefore they feel perfect and confident to interact with other students in school. Individual self-esteem is characterized by various factors and, in most cases, focusses on how we view our appearance and performance. Have you ever been in a relationship, whether intimate or friendship, where you doubt your worth in the relationship? It does happen mostly to youth with low self-esteem. Youths with low self-esteem always feel that the other person they relate with is much better than them and that they are not worthy of being in such a relationship. Low self-esteem lowers the partner’s ability to communicate with another person, and in most cases, the relationship does not last long (Scissors et al., 2014).
A self-esteem is a young person who may vary from time to time. When someone performs well in school, he or she feels good about himself. High Self-esteem can, therefore, be boosted by better performance. During an exemplary performance, even an individual who had been suffering from self-esteem gains confidence to interact with others. Succeeding in important task tasks, therefore, plays a significant role in relationship building and sustenance. According to self-determination theory, every person is born with an inherent capability to perfect themselves in different aspects (Núñez, Juan and Jaime, 2015). Self -esteem on an individual can be worked on from within and begins by changing and person’s mindset regarding how he or she sees himself.
I recall back when I joined high school how my friend used to struggle with low self-esteem. It was difficult for him to participate in class discussion, and even though he had correct answers, he could not lift his hand to contribute. Being the only friend he had back then as we were homies, I used to force him to interact with other students during the game and other co-curriculum activities. My friend lacked self-determination that could propel him towards building relationships with other students, and we had to consult a counselor for assistance.
Have you ever felt that you don’t belong in a specific environment? Social belonging is an aspect that affects many relationships among youths while in school. It is an aspect that determines the extent to which a student will interact with other students and teachers. Once a youth begins to feel that the school environment he operates in does not fit his or her standards, then managing relationships with other students becomes difficult. The sense of belonging has much to do with the social background of a student. Some students feel that they should be studying in a more prestigious school and therefore they think that they don’t fit in the school environment they are in. The students feel that he can not interact with students from various backgrounds, and therefore, they do not make relationships with other students. Such students end up being depressed since they spend most of their time alone. Sharing issues affecting them comes to a problem, even with counselors, and in most cases, they tend to seek help from home. Seeking help from home while in school may not be instant, and therefore the student may have to suffer alone for some time. Many students in Hong Kong show depression signs due to workload. More in-depth analysis shows that such students often avoid relating with other students in group discussions, and they suffer from the workload and poor grades. Social identity theory suggests that an individual must work on his inner feelings regarding an aspect of life to acquire a sense of social belonging in the environment her she operates in. I strongly agree that a student must interact with others and build healthy relationships to have a comfortable stay at school. Even if a student feels that he is not in a school environment where he is supposed to be, he or she should seek a counselor to assist in fitting into the atmosphere. Building relationships with other students helps in interacting with others during group work. Therefore, a student does not have to struggle alone during school work, which can be shared among students.
“Vulnerability.” As a student, you become vulnerable if you cannot build healthy relationships while in school (Rosenberg, Marshall, and Deepak, 2015). Much time spent in the dark exposes the subject to vampires aspiring to drain the last drop of blood from their targeted lost body. The only bullet used by the so-called bloodthirsty creatures is the loneliness is to isolate the innocent soul from the multitude. Once separated from the multitude, the hunter targets the mind. “you are useless, look at how bright the other is, you don’t fit in the group.” Disorientation of the mind is a powerful tool that scatters the young soul. Once the mind of the lonely student is scattered, he or she wonders alone in the vast empty land. There is no place to find comfort. Everything seems lost, and the vision and mission of being in school seem to fall apart. The young student was the right place where he could have interacted with others and even find an intimate companion. The mind noticed. The destroyer targeted the innocent creature’s stronghold and changed how it was supposed to think. Decision-making processes were tampered with, and that’s why the young, energetic soul wanders in the wilderness, no friends, no companion. What should I do now as a young? Should I go home and tell my parents that I am unable to interact with other students? Should I o and confront them to bring me up in a society that didn’t teach me how to communicate and make relationships? No! Let me fight like a grown-up, there is an ego to protect. Parents should know that now I can stand-in for myself. In my experience, when I was 13, I used to uncomfortable interacting with neighbors. I used to feel that they have nothing to offer that can assist me in the future. Little did I know that a time will come when I will be in an environment where everyone is understanding. The only tactic of survival is to understand how to interact with other people and make new relationships. Misconceptions in life must be taught at an early age. Society must creep in and strengthen children’s ability to interact with other people in a new environment. A parent should stop burying their heads in the sand when it comes to building a relationship. An innocent you man or woman way burn out just because the society sat on the fence when a child needed them most.
“Depression” is Many students are unable to interact with other students due to depression. A depressed person friends’ comfort in spending time together locked in their rooms (Solomon and Andrew, 2014). It is a menace that attracts a young student’s heart and mind. What starts to creep in is a dirty mind and many attempts on suicide. Inability to interact with other people intimately or in friendship, built-up stress in an individual mind. An individual can’t find people to love or spend time with. In most cases, depression creeps in when an individual is vulnerable to the environment full of depressing situations. In a school environment, the student encounters bulky work, which may need sharing, and in cases where a student does not have friends to share with, depression will be unavoidable. Many might think that avoiding other students is being self-reliance, but in the real sense, the repercussions are fatal, and male leads to death. I can recall back when I joined college, my friend Mona took her life due to related cases of depression. Mona used to spend much time in her room while others who are in the field during the games time. She could spend much time trying to solve mathematics questions, which were meant for group work. She did not want to interact with others, so she preferred to do the group work alone, which in the end, resulted in depression for not cooperating with other people. Mona had a passion for doing well in academics, but her strategies were not right since she could not build healthy relationships with other students who could have relieved her from stress. Repercussion was that she opted to consume poisonous substances to end her life. The case could have been prevented if society had paid much attention to Mona’s way of life. A counselor would have intervened to save her from the ordeal, which was staring eyes on her. The blame game is not isolation in this case. The ideal remedy for such incidents happening again in schools is to be keen and observe young children’s behavior when it comes to relationship matters. How to interact with other people can be taught by society right from a young age, and this will help a student later in life. Avoidance is a menace creeping into the community in the current generation. People mind so much about their lives, and they forget that there are young people who need help. You must invent various procedures that will link the young generation with society. Recent studies show that young age becomes detached to the community as ears progress. The young generation seeks for ways to be self-sustaining individuals. In the process, they lose their way two interacting with other people in society, which is a very significant aspect of life.