Playing with biology will land you in trouble.
When we were young and active in Christian ministry, one of my friends confided in me, when we were out of Nairobi on a ministry trip, that his girlfriend, a sister in the Lord, was pregnant. He told me, something went wrong, and I am responsible. The brother was so deep in the Lord, I wondered what could have gone wrong. I told him, please be frank. What exactly happened? How could it have happened? They were both very deep in the Lord.
He explained very simply; they felt that the Lord had led them together, but they had planned to serve the Lord for a number of years before tying the knot. In the meantime, they would just be friends. Then, one afternoon, the girl visited the brother’s residence. He said that they were just the two of them, and the girl wanted to cook for him. At some point he joined her in the kitchen, and they started playing. Soon, they found themselves on bed. He told me, honestly, brother, I can’t remember how it happened, but she is pregnant.
That is why I said, do not ignore biology. Thank God, if you are biologically okay, but remember that the devil will never give up on tempting you until God calls you home. When you sit next to a woman who is not your wife and she talks to you nicely, and then touches you and you feel hot, the first thing you say, halleluyah, I am normal. After that, run away.
It is something to be grateful to God for, that you are normal. It is a blessing from the Lord. There are people who are not normal. So, for you be happy that you are normal. And then, having known that, take off, like Joseph, at Potiphar’s house. Do not talk further, do not negotiate – just take off. This is for both the young and the old. You are married, and you happen to be counselling a certain sister and you have no intention of ever getting involved with her, but one thing leads to another and you find yourself compromised.
One of the longest chapters in my book, Leadership: King David’s Style, deals with how to manage your sex drive. The biggest challenge that David had to contend with was how to manage his sex drive. He was a great friend of God, a man after God’s heart (1 Sam 13:14; Acts 13:22), but he forgot that he was biologically okay and that he was still prone to temptations. That not only turned him to an adulterer but also later, a murderer.