Healthy Relationships with Our Loved Ones
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Introduction
Love is a compelling feeling of constant affection for a particular person or people. It is said that with the right person, love is usually a beautiful thing. It is not an unheard-of story that some people have abandoned all their wealth luxuries and even jobs for love. This signifies the importance of this feeling. Love can either be romantic, unconditional, friendly type of love. These types of love will get expressed to different kinds of people at one point in every human being. It is inevitable. Mahatma Gandhi, while still alive, acknowledged that the best way to find yourself is to lose lode yourself in other people. The only way one can lose himself/herself in others is through love.
It is from this act that one grows mentally and physically since there is always someone to come back to after a tough day at work, during an illness or tragedies. Our loved ones are our support systems in the world. The famous saying no man is an island applies in this subject matter. We need others to grow. It enhances one’s sanity and mind. It also is the start of a journey to discover oneself since love reveals a lot about a person that he/she did not know or have an idea of at all (Auer& Gluck,2019). Our thought processes, morals, tastes, and automatic reactions reveal a lot about our character to ourselves upon reflection. This is in consideration of the fact that we may be in situations we have never been to before.
Inspiration is also inevitable since one is always motivated always to create something. Renown artists like Da Vinci and Picasso all have testified that at some point in their lives, one or two paintings were inspired by love.
Relationships with your loved ones
- Ways to build a strong relationship with your loved ones
For one to have a healthy relationship, the intention should be clear. A healthy relationship needs attention and unremitting efforts from both parties to yields maximum results. It is from this that the purest connection and love get formed. Relationships are vital in a human being’s life, but then people are never taught on the necessary skills and principles of managing relationships (Joy,2020). Resilience being the ability to be able to bounce back from problems and stress, the author Joy explains that A good relation immune system has to be resilient. For things to work out, then both parties must be able to come back together and forgive each other despite all the problems they are undergoing. One researcher, while giving a talk, explained that difficulties are a spice to life, from overcoming them, we become more reliable and better than we were before.
Understanding each other is vital. This topic is boosted by clear explanations and intentions. One party might get caught up in problems and change their whole mood towards almost anything. This is where the understanding bit comes in. The act shows sincere care for the other one. One might think, but how am I going to live like this if my partner has portrayed this mood for two months now. In case you are wondering what the solution is, then I have an answer for you. Patience! Patience! Patience! There are times when there is no silver lining in our situations, and this may be so because the clouds have covered it. A little more time will enable the wind to move the clouds a bit and voila! Our silver ling. Human beings have to understand that Rome was not built in a day.
Interaction is key. Joy continues to explain that family relationships can never work without frequent interactions. She acknowledges that communications are the building blocks in all types of links in the world, whether work relationships, family relationships, romantic relationships, not forgetting friendships. Have you ever been in a situation whereby you meet a friend you last saw ten years ago, you go for lunch, and in the first twenty minutes, the meeting is practically over? I have been in that situation, and I later realized that the answer to this question was interaction. With frequent interactions, memories are made, jokes are also made. In these, experiences also occur that one can rarely forget. Being a series of interactions, each one offers an opportunity to interrupt an insecure pattern. With this, everyday interactions can be compared to a training ground where relationship resilience can be achieved.
Respect is also paramount in relationships. Respect is a two-way traffic that avoids arguments and feelings of disrespect. Respect is the ultimate cornerstone in any type of relations (Auer, Gluck,2019)But do human beings understand what honor is? Very few people understand the lay man’s definition of respect. Sadly, this is not the case .Respect is whereby you identify and recognize your significant other as a whole person. Inevitably, you and your partner at some point will have different views on a situation, and it is okay for that to happen.
Making time for each other is also essential in building a robust and prosperous relationship. It is from this action that our loved ones feel that they are essential to us because we took time out of a busy schedule specifically for them. This increases the amount of love one has for another and would probably do the same for them.
2.Reasons for having a healthy relationship
This topic tries to explain the ‘why’ for having healthy relationships. As stated earlier hence a strong relationship with your loved ones is essential for personal growth. The stress levels get lowered, depression risks reduce, one acts selfishly, and a deeper of self -understanding is achieved. In addition to this, happiness is achieved because there is a feeling that someone gets and understands you all the time, no matter the case. The feeling of finding and meeting your family family family every day after work is just amazing. Our loved ones are basically the support systems that will help bring us up whenever we are down.
According to recent research done, having a strong relationship with your loved ones can increase your life span. You might be wondering how this is so, but believe you me, it does. The researchers acknowledge that having strong, healthy relationships has more impacts than taking blood pressure drugs (Hawkley et al.,2010). The same research also states that not having healthy social relationships is like taking fifteen cigarettes in a day. The impact is the same. That is how serious the topic of healthy relationships is. It is essential to understand that having healthy friendships does not mean having numerous friends who, in the end, will end up destroying your life, and all you have worked for. In this case, quality rather quantity is advised. Having two good friends who help to grow spiritually and mentally is okay. In fact, it is perfect. Large groups will encourage gossiping among the friends, which will end up on the wrong foot. This instance will bring chaos and add to the stress levels in one’s life hence not recommended by most relationship coaches.
Lastly, healthy relationships with your loved ones make you healthier. This applies to any stage of a human being’s life. Stating facts, people in healthy relationships are less likely to get sick compared to those in unhealthy relationships or those who are lonely in one way or another. Loneliness inflicts pain and misery on a person’s life which, drains them (Aremka et al.,2012). The person ends up having a ‘not so good’ outlook on life. Loneliness is a relative predictor of bad or rather poor health. In such situations, the lonely person gets advised to be more outgoing and interact with other people. The likely hood of making a friend or a potential partner is significantly high. From there, regular interactions might happen, which would end up being the start of fruitful and healthy relationships.
Conclusion
Having stated meaningful relationships and their benefits, it is essential that human beings take it upon themselves to seek healthy relationships. With this knowledge, people can examine their lives and evaluate whether the relationships they have with others are positive and negative. This will only happen if one decides to do so. If the relationship has more negatives than positives, then the necessary steps should be taken to alienate oneself from that friendship or generally relationship,
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